Real Love

 

               "Life without love is devoid of joy and happiness."

Love

First of all, we have to understand the difference between English LOVE and love. According to the definition of love in the American Heritage Dictionary, "LOVE is called" intense affection for another person based on family or personal relationships ". According to Western belief, this "intense affection" is usually caused by sexual attraction towards another person. We LOVE someone because we like it, and likewise LOVE us because we are attracted to it. From the Indian point of view this dictionary definition of love is incomplete. Because in this definition there is a condition.

I LOVE YOU.

Conditional love implies that; We can only love those who fulfill any of our expectations. In other words, we love someone because they are beautiful, or they take good care of me, or they are very cheerful. Our love of this kind is not only conditional but also fickle. There is total possibility of change. Today we are loving someone, so tomorrow that love can also end. Except one, we can start loving another. Due to this definition of love, the rate of divorce is increasing in the society today.

In Indian tradition, marriage was considered a relation of births, it was accepted as a fast. Here divorce is far from over the phone, after the death of the husband, there are also examples of fire wives for meeting in next life. This is the culmination of love. Even death cannot tear us apart, this is the feeling.

Supportive LOVE 

   "Love is the basis of life. There is peace in the life   of someone who has love. Peace lies in love."

Love towards God is much further than this love. To explain "unconditional" love, we have to understand the love parents have towards their children. Time is good or bad, children are good or bad, the affection of parents remains with them. They may not live up to our expectations, but their love for them does not diminish. Rather the opposite happens. If we have three children, the weaker one among them, the more love of mother = father towards them. Can we love someone else's beautiful, beautiful and intelligent child like our child?

To understand love for God, all human definitions of love are incomplete. The Father who always has compassion for us without reason. If the mind's eye is open, we can always experience the blessings of whose grace every day, every moment. In spite of all our evil, whose love never falls short on us, according to which definition should we "love" him?

Definition of love

Definition of Love.

Love can be defined as:

Love is a strong emotional emotion expressed openly and covertly towards another person, which is usually complementary (opposite sex). Given that men and women complement and complement each other, rather than mentioning the opposite sex, it is better to say that complementary sex, love is a very complex and multidimensional situation. The exchange of love is a human need. To make them love us, we must love others.

Healthy people have the talent to fall in love and practically taste the sweet of love. Sexual need is one of the basic and physical needs of man that brings boys and girls, men and women together.

Love for complementary sex is a wonderful and very valuable event that fills people's lives with joy and happiness. Love transforms humans and gives them courage and courage, and removes fear, shame etc. Destroys. Magnificent love is a window to the infinite power of the universe; Love is above all and has no boundaries and attracts man and gives him peace and order. All have a special love, feeling and understanding. Erik Fromm, a noted psychologist, says, "Love is a personal feeling that only one can understand."

                  "Love is what inspires' the soul of the world to change and grow,"                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          

Healthy people have the talent to fall in love and practically taste the sweet of love. Sexual need is one of the basic and physical needs of man that brings boys and girls, men and women together. Girls and boys in adolescence are more influenced by volatile emotions and fleeting emotions, entering into each other's emotional realm and creating love adventures. In this story, teenagers, especially girls, are expected to have a love affair regardless of whether marriage is right or wrong, appropriate or unfair at this age and under these circumstances. Or untimely! These love and marriages usually have no end and in most cases fail and lead to divorce and separation.

Love, like any other event, is influenced by the factors that lead to its stability or decline.

In any love, the three factors of "intimacy", "attraction and excitement" and "commitment" play a fundamental and important role in cohabitation, so that the absence of one or two factors does not establish and continue true love between a couple. Causes to keep. does not. Now let us see how the three factors described in the types of love appear and what role they play:

 Romantic love:

In romantic love, there is intimacy and attraction between a man and a woman, but the two sides have no obligation to each other.

                                            Romantic love

 Platonic love:

This type of love has intimacy and commitment, but less of an impact on sexual attraction and desire.

 Clear love:

In external love, maturity is not there to create an effective relationship between the two parties. Parties can pretend to be in love, while there is no deep intimacy and genuine commitment.

  Loveless love:

In Empty Love, there is no real intimacy and attraction, and both the couple, or one of them, feels strongly in ownership of the other and tries to control their wife and prejudice, forcefully and influence them. Deprivation of the independence and authority of the spouse effectively affects their self-confidence. A person with this type of thinking is not a healthy person and is considered ill.

 One Way Love:

                                           Romantic love

As the name suggests, one of the parties either does not know about the other's love or does not accept his love. Such love goes nowhere because the lover virtually mentally addresses the lover, talks to him, thinks for him and makes a decision. Such love is doomed to failure.

 False Love:

In this type of love, there is no real commitment and intimacy. One side is attracted to the other because of its beauty, wealth, fame or social status and pretends to be in love. Such love does not end well.

 Instant Love:

Attraction and enthusiasm play a major role in these affections and no effect can be seen from the other two factors. These types of love are short-lived, short-lived and fruitless.

True Love.

Regarding puberty and emotional development, it should be said that for girls and boys to have a successful life together, they must have the necessary experience. Couples who get married at an early age and before they acquire the necessary skills, because they do not have the necessary experience and maturity, do not know how to deal with obstacles properly and manage their emotions and feelings, and problems. with. They deal without the necessary thinking, while the more experienced and aware couples are, the better they can communicate with each other and create a successful life. For this reason, early marriage is not recommended by counselors and psychologists.